Comments on: 13 Weeks Pregnant

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 17:16:23 +0000

I am 13 weeks, 2 days with my 2nd child (3rd pregnancy). I am still suffering with nausea and constipation. Starting to have flare ups of migraines. My 1st child (she will be 3 in March) went fairly well. I tried to conceive for over a year with no luck. I found out I had a non-working gallbladder that needed to be removed. Schedule for surgery and then received a call that the doctor couldn’t operate because I was pregnant! Best news of my life! So, I went through a lot of nausea, unable to eat, tender breasts…basically normal first trimester. Into my second, I continue to be sick and loose weight. I lost over 17lbs from the start of pregnancy. It was decided that my gallbladder had to be remove. The surgery was perform at 15 weeks. From 14-16 weeks, your uterus is still well below your belly button so it was best to perform the operation at this time. Everything went well, heard the baby heart beat of 133 when I woke from anesthesia. Nausea immediately went away and pregnancy went smoothe. Labor lasted 27 hours. I lost my mucus plug (bloody, yellow snot discharge) a week before labor. Couldn’t really eat the day I began labor. I attempted an epidural that didn’t take. Yes, lots of pain and I did have to be cut because of tearing on top. But I believe the pain help me to be strong at the end and to push…by then you are ready to just have the baby already! And of course, all pain went away when I held my wiggle worm. So now to my 2nd pregnancy…it was actually textbook pregnancy. I had my ultrasound at 9 weeks 2 days and baby’s heartbeat was strong. Everything looked great! Then at 13 weeks, I went to the restroom and had a light pink tinge when I wipe. Call my Ob, they put me on pelvic rest and I was to come the next day for blood test. Spotting stop that night, but preceeded the next day a little heavier. It look like the start of my period. I had my blood test done and went home…stayed in bed. Yes, I was a total wreck and people just told me to calm down. This is a very difficult task because a mother has that gut feeling of something being wrong and you are so helpless because nothing can be done. The next day, I began having a heavier flow with clots. I started experiencing a cramp-like pain that then became contractions. I made my decision and went to the ER. The ER ran blood work and sent me for an ultrasound. They wouldn’t let me see the ultrasound. Then the doctor came in and did pelvic exam. I broke down in tears because I just knew before the words came out of his mouth. Then I heard, I’m sorry. The baby just stop growing. They dated the baby stopped at 9 weeks 6 days. Very hard news to take when I just saw my baby with a strong heart beat 4 days earlier. The only explanation I receive is that something went horribly wrong with either the heart or the brain for me to miscarry at this stage in pregnancy. I was told that where I was at, it would be a week before I actually expell the baby. The doctor prescribe me pills that would cause me to deliver in a couple of days. I was told that it would be a big clot the size of an orange and to just flush it down the toilet. Well, that didn’t happen. My pain worsen when I went home and contractions became closer together. I got in the shower(its my comfort zone) while my husband went to the store to pick up my prescription. Before I knew it, I went to a squatting position just as my husband got home. I felt my water break and then out came a baby. Yes, a baby. Leland fit in the palm of my hand. You could tell he was a human child. I gave him a proper burial. After that, I went for a follow-up visit. This is very hard to do when you are surrounded by babies. My doctor said my body did everything it was suppose to do and I didn’t need a d&c. I saw that some people ask where was god when you miscarried. Well, he was with me the whole time and never left. Even though I lost my child, he gave me what I needed in that moment to get through that lost. He let me hold my child and give it a proper burial. He didn’t give me a clot to flush down the toilet. I still have many questions as to why this happen to me, but saying that I was not ready for a child was not the reason. And nobody will understand or know what to say to comfort until they themselves face this experience. So now to present day pregnancy…Dr. said I could begin trying after my first period. I decided not to aggressively try for another since I was still grieving inside. Well, I had my 1st period and then it was time for 2nd, but nothing came. After a couple of days, I took a test and it show positive. Couldn’t believe it (took me a year of trying with other 2) so the next day I took another test. It show positive. So I thought well…it just the hormones from my last, but I’ll make my appointment to the doctor. Went at 6 weeks pregnant and had my ultrasound…there was a baby in there! Actually, a cute little white blob. Everything look great, but I heard that before. So at 9 weeks I came down with bronchitis and started spotting. All these fears came back and I went straight to the ER. Baby was ok! They said I had blood around the sac, but baby would be fine, just take it easy. Spotting was just pink and eventually stop after a couple days. Then I started spotting at 10 weeks..went 2 days later to my Ob appointment. The nurse found the heartbeat and I began to cry…it was a huge relief! Dr. decided to do another ultrasound because of spotting. She couldn’t see where the blood was coming from this time and said I may just have a sensitive cervix. Heart beat has maintain the 150′s. I have lost 8 lbs so far this pregnancy. Nausea has been really bad and I’m on phenegran and zofran once again. Starting to lighten a little and I’m beginning to gradually eat more, but maintaining several small meals. I found a fruit smoothie is the best when you can’t eat and need to! My next visit will be at 14 weeks 2 days. Still a little anxious, hoping all is well with the baby. That thought tends to stay with you whether you have had a misscarriage in the past or not. It gets better though and your pregnancy may seem to last forever, but once that baby is born…time flies!!! I wish everyone the best!

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 19:48:56 +0000

I am 12 weeks and 5 days and i am a nervous wreak yes for no reason. the dr. said all is good just wish i could hear my little peanuts heart beat when ever i wanted!!!!

By: meghin

meghin — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 05:18:11 +0000

Today, people have the choice to do so many things. A woman’s body is a precious thing and they should have all control over their bodies, including what they do with it. Women make stupid decisions like having unprotected sex, but don’t have control over whether or not they’re sexually abused. Women don’t have control over whether or not the person they become pregnant to will be with them forever. What I’m trying to say is that things happen. And we almost always have a way to make them better. I’m not saying that abortions are wrong, but are most definitely an unjust act. I understand how a woman can think that because they were raped and became pregnant, they couldn’t care for the child because it would remind them of what they went through. But that little life isn’t just a piece of the horrible person that did that to them. It’s a piece of the woman as well. Woman who are drug addicts that become pregnant with no desire to care for the kid basically have no way out when it comes to making a decision. Chances are they won’t be willing to quit and the fetus may not be able to survive long enough to be born, and if it happens to make it to birth, will most likely have many disorders. It’s hard to explain how I feel on this subject but here’s my best shot at it: I would NEVER get an abortion. I believe that when I become pregnant, I am in control of that little life and whether it lives or dies. I won’t consider abortion because it would be easier for me, or because it was an accident that gives me nightmares EVERY night. If I’m carrying that fetus, it’s my job, and pleasure, to give it the best life I can. I will not let anyone have a say in whether or not my unborn child counts as a “life”. My mother was told to get an abortion with me when she was 16. She didn’t. It was hard at first but she knew she made the right choice, even though it wasn’t the best time for her to conceive. Fetus or not, it is your responsibility. If you decide to have an abortion, know that you aren’t “unpregnant”. You are simply the mother of a dead baby. And you chose that outcome. A baby is NOT a parasite. It is a human life that needs to be thought of as just as much of an importance as any other life. Any woman who thinks abortion is okay needs to watch an ultrasound of a baby being aborted. The little thing fights for its life and silently screams as it’s pulled apart, even during an early abortion. Being “okay” with this just makes the individual seem “unhuman” and makes me wonder if anyone ever cared about them at all. Don’t think that just because your parents weren’t kind to you that it’s okay to just kill your own children. Your parents at least gave you a chance at a good life. No matter what decisions anyone makes in life, they should be prepared to deal with the results of their actions. And as for the know-it-all commenting on the one woman’s comment about improper grammar: grow up. Just because you’re grammatically correct means that women won’t want to beat the shit out of you for thinking that murder on a being that can’t fight back is okay. If there is a hell, I’ll see you there, probably for a crime against know-nothing twits like yourself. Good day.

By: lucy

lucy — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 03:02:32 +0000

Let me start by saying that half u ladies r out of ur dang minds. Why don’t u start thinking for yourself, If u really plan on living Ur life based on what “god” thinks then u will surely b disappointed. It’s Ur life and Ur free to make ur own choices, the choices that work for u & only. And as for being selfish, everyone In this qorld is. Ur doin everything Ur god is telling u to, correction, what a book Is telling u to. And why, to make the world a better place? Yeah I think not. It’s for ur own satisfaction not mine. Who r u to tell me whats good for me and my body? We are given our own thoughts and beliefs so who do u think u r to call anyone a murderer? U r not god, Ur not a leader Ur a follower. So u might wanna think twice before u go and judge another human being.

By: kominki

kominki — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 12:22:03 +0000

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By: Winnie

Winnie — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 09:37:47 +0000

Very informative for first time mums.It really guides us a lot and help us to prepare ourselves.Its so good to know the development taking place inside of us and what we can do to maintain a healthy child. Feel a bit scared about the whole being pregant thingy but really really happy about it though.cant wait to start feeling the baby movements.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 19:48:19 +0000

I think maybe you haven't been in that position to be able to judge that. Are you aware of feelings? Morals? Do u have empathy? Compassion? Have you ever thought that maybe a baby growing inside someone that was rapped was a vision, a picture a memory everyday for 9 straight months. Don't be so quick to judge!

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 21:18:46 +0000

ok well their is a law that you can get abortions and so therefor why argue everyone has their own beliefs if you get an abortion then you get an abortion if you dont agree with abortions dont get one ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE!!!!!!

By: TRISHA

TRISHA — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 22:19:24 +0000

YA SO WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN SOME CREEP RAPES YOU OR A FAMILY MEMBER RAPES AND IMPREGNATES YOU?? THEN WHAT? YOU STILL THINK THAT WOMAN DOESNT HAVE THE CHOICE TO ABORT?

By: Guest

Guest — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 00:21:43 +0000

not really murder at all. your fetus has no "brain waves" at all. therefore until it is born it is really just a parasite living off of the carrier. some say its an awful way of looking at pregnancy but then again about as bad as calling an abortion "murder"